I thoroughly enjoyed this expression of joy from a being sharing his voice and feelings as he gets feedback on this architecture of sound amplification. Nice 6 minutes.
Wow, so much has been shifting and happening over the last several months. Have you felt it too? I have been sitting back a bit, and observing change with a gentle oar in the water. It has been a challenge to get busy with such an amazing backyard. Holiday Head in Paradise must be a syndrome for us lifestyle dream achievers! My new manuscript has been finally coming out through an unusual channel – literally – my radio show channel, hahaha!
I am writing the content which has been spinning around in my head for two years on Beliefs. My outline was done ages ago, but getting down the rest was not part of my regular disciplined habits. If you are an author or writer(or any project achiever), you know this is what makes the magic complete; daily small steps toward your dreams. So with my resistance coming up and distractions abounding (yes that Holiday Head in Paradise again) I decided to use my current habits to get this next book done. Watch me as you observe my own way of changing my beliefs (around procrastination and resistance to getting the books done).
Now, the 3rd book is already coming up in my thoughts and experience loud and clear, and I am getting so excited about that future book, that I have to finish the Beliefs book to clear the space! Funny how our motivation comes.
There are 3 more books coming in a series: Beliefs, then Money, then Love.
At the SPEED of Beliefs is aimed to follow up where SPEED Manifesting leaves off – what stops us from receiving and allowing our manifestations and creations. It is going to be a reference book to go deeper into explaining about our beliefs and the practical side to getting over them, or even riding on them to our next destination. If you want to ride along with me as I explore the topics please join me and listen to the audios and share with like minded friends.
The best way to hear it live is on http://BlogTalkRadio.com/speedmanifesting
And remember to connect on facebook to get updates too. I have an authors page here:
At the SPEED of Beliefs is due out on Amazon and Kindle in early October.
Until then, we’ll connect On Air.
“The more I do this manifesting work, the more I realize how much your Self-Image affects your beliefs and holds back or supports fast manifesting.” Lori
I was deep in a visualization about my relationship to money, and what I discovered astounded me.
Using a metaphor of my ‘money chamber’, I went down into the ‘room’ where I could explore what my relationship to money meant to my subconscious.
What I found there was an elderly man with glasses, sitting at an old oak desk. He was bald and he had a face striped with worry and diligence. His glasses were magnifying, like those used for looking close-up. The room was like a dim basement chamber. He had money and coins around him, and he was surprised to see me.
At the moment I saw him I realized that he was the good steward I had elected to take care of my money decisions. He had helped me to be a responsible and sensible young woman about money. I realized he was exactly what I had needed when I appointed him.
You see, when I was around 11 years old, I made a mistake. And it had cost me my mother’s love, I thought. I guess I have been entrepreneurial ever since I realized that I could earn my own money and have it to spend, instead of being confined to my mother’s relentless answer ‘no we can’t afford it’. During that time I would make a craft (like woven or crocheted potholders) and then go door-to-door and sell them for a dollar. Next, I saved up $25 and bought a greeting card sales kit from the direct sales ads in the back of my cartoon magazines and went around selling boxes of greeting cards to the elderly ladies in the neighborhood. They were kind to me and welcomed the brief company of a cheerful and very focused young girl.
Finally I decided to open my own restaurant. My sister was a talented artist. She is a professional portrait artist and has been a graphic designer (she designed my ankle tatoo of hibiscus flowers way back in the 80′s). My mother was away working for the day, and we were bored. So I enrolled my sister in designing and illustrating my menu, and creating a sandwich board to put outside. We named it the Red Dragon. Mind you, I was 11 years old and this restaurant was in our garage with a hot plate. We hand-copied the menus with prices and invited all the kids we knew in our neighborhood. We opened the door and cooked and served up all the food I could find in the fridge, pantry and cupboards. It was a total success! We earned $15 (this was in 1972) and had happy customers too. We tidied up and waited for our mom to come home. But before she did, I had this great idea to take the money to the corner store. When we got there, we didn’t realize that $15 could buy us so many more candies and chips than we had ever bought before. I remember sitting on the curb eating the last of the corn chips and drinking chocolate milk; an unlikely combination, but I savoured it because it was my earnings.
When my mother got home, she went to the pantry to begin making dinner. I remember watching her head swing back and forth, up and down as she asked “where is all the food?” We were so excited to tell her about our venture. We showed her the menus and the branded sandwich board. “Alright” she said, “so where’s the money?” as she held out her hand. Gulp.
We had spent every bit of our profits at that corner store, and then gorged on them.
My mother was raising us by herself. She was the sole income and worked full time to support us. This was near the end of a 3 year period where she had bought us a house and tried her best to manage a mortgage. It hadn’t been going well. I would say in hindsight that those seemed to be the worst 3 financial years of her life. I had no idea of the cares and worries in the world of money, except that we didn’t have any. I also hadn’t learned about profits versus costs. That $15 probably started out as $50 worth of groceries. So much for my entrepreneurial experiences. She sent us to bed without dinner (because the cupboards were empty and there was no more money to buy any until the next paycheck). She was very angry; more than I had ever seen her towards me. I cried myself to sleep and knew I had upset her.
I became very responsible about money. I became aware of my spending and wanted to please my employers wherever I worked. This incident seemed to crush my entrepreneurial spirit, but only for a while. I made some negative decisions about myself and my self trust was guarded. I was a harsh judge of myself after that, being very driven and not satisfied, nor resting on any success I achieved. I would have to say I became better at money than I would have otherwise, even though this incident did some damage to my self esteem because of the conclusions I made and the self-blame I began.
Fast forward 4 decades and although I knew I still had limitations because of that event, I found that I manifested almost anything except more than enough money. It came and went, whether I spent it or saved it. There was always something else to pay or spend on. When I realized that I had no freedom or joy when I spent money, and I had no celebration when I was responsible and disciplined about not spending, I knew it was from this incident. I needed to look at it. First, I hired NLP coach Wayne Donnelly, and in his phone session he worked with me to give me an alternate ending – what I would have done differently, knowing what I learned from it. I knew that I would have still done everything the same, except spend all the money. I would have spent a little and taken the rest home. This exercise freed and validated a part of me, and I began to enjoy both the experience of spending and ‘not spending’.
So later, when I worked through the money relationship visualization, it surprised me to find that ‘stingy’ old man in there. No, wait, he wasn’t stingy. He was my steward of money. He was responsible, diligent, watchful and very helpful. He was just what I had needed. I thanked him. I blessed him. I invited him to have a rest now, and sit back.
I invited more light into that chamber. I added a glass window looking out into green pastures. I invited a new spirit into the room. Delightfully, a gorgeous fairy girl showed up. She had a ring of flowers in her hair and she danced around the chamber. She put a ring of flowers on my steward’s head as he watched her in wonder.
She brought light and laughter into that dark room. I decided to leave them both there together, and that was a good place to start. I added a shop front and made the chamber into a bookstore, with a line of happy customers out the door and over the green hills.
It was lovely and useful to acknowledge and accept myself and balance my relationship to money with full awareness of the lessons and blessings. I highly recommend the visualization. You may find the insights you need to design some new beliefs around money, like I did.
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Recently I was invited to attend a wonderful weekend seminar on mindset & wealth creation. My good friend was going and I thought it would be useful and informative, so I signed up too. It was 4 days over a weekend and it had many good speakers talking about exactly how they used their mindset on their way to becoming financially free in Australia. One was the first civilian astronaut, another had precious metals trading business, and others were coaches and internet marketers with a wonderful lifestyle.
One evening the task was introduced: karate chop through a board with your bare hand.
This was something I did years ago with an outdoor adventure training company employer. I enjoyed it then and learned the techniques to make it happen. Back then it took me a couple of goes at it, but with coaching I did it! It felt great and I was glad I achieved it, since I am lean and small boned.
So this time, I was mentally tired after a long day in seminars, and decided I could skip it and go home at a reasonable hour. Well, this was not meant to be. About an hour before the exercise began, they were explaining how to successfully break through the board. They gave the physical, mental and energetic instructions. Then they handed out legal disclaimer forms. During the weekend we had been organised into groups, and if I left early my group lost points. Wow, I felt so much resistance coming up. I didn’t want to do it, because I had already done it before! I wasn’t afraid, I just couldn’t be bothered. I didn’t feel like doing it, stop telling me what to do…all these mental voices came up. In those voices I suddenly heard people in my childhood, who I feel succumbed to those voices and never got over some limiting obstacles. That woke me up enough to realize it wasn’t my voice; it was subconscious, and I had a choice. I sat with my resistance for a while, still not signing the form. Then I did my own Energy work around releasing the thought “I don’t feel like doing this,” and -whoa – my voices changed into raw fear! Such strong emotion was coming up. My group members were waiting for me to say yes, and I said – nothing. (Very unusual for me). I was speechless in my internal terror, facing the idea that I had to do this for myself; yet I was feeling cornered. No one was insisting or even challenging me to do it. They were all excited. I let go of any resistance but was not committed to it. I was allowing myself to go through the motions as I observed without stopping myself. I signed the form, handed it in, got my board and wrote the name of the obstacle I wanted to break through – yes “FEAR” was the perfect word. I got in circles of people all lining up to do it. As I watched the young women have trouble breaking through, my anxiety came up again – fear of looking bad, not being right or successful, while everyone watched. The exercise wasn’t going to end until everyone in the room (over 70 people) were successful.
I pulled myself up mentally and finally took charge of my thinking. I realized that I had to do this physically and symbolically too – it represented unfamiliar fears that I was hiding behind resistance, ambivalence and “I already know this”. So I went to the SPEED Manifesting(TM) method and did a quick check through the steps:
1. Yes, I knew what I wanted: to break through that board powerfully the first time!
2. Yes, I imagined it and how I would feel about being successful. I had plenty of people in front of me to show me the way. I closed my eyes and pictured my board with the word F-E-A-R broken it two!
3. Yes, I stopped momentarily and became grateful to the seminar organizers for this opportunity and to the person who was going to be holding the board. He was so excited for each success and so encouraging. I could feel his want for our success.
4. Yes, I had become the observer in my thinking and watched my subconscious without resistance.
~ I was in line and suddenly it was my turn. Next I was handing the board to be held while the whole crowd was there looking at me. ~
5. Yes, I used their technique of speaking out loud “Yes, Yes, Yes” to get ready with the power of sound.
6. Yes, I took right action; I stayed the distance to do the necessary work; I took a moment to physically practice the movement as rehersal and I focused on a goal of 110% – not just ending at the board, but going through it and beyond.
7. Yes, I got the energy moving and I imagined bringing the energy of the Universe through one hand, down that arm, twisting and picking up speed through my chest as I gave it back through the board to the person beyond it.
I think he was as pleasantly shocked as I was that I split that board in two, first time. And he cheered me and my success just as I had imagined it!
I also noticed in that moment after it broke, that I was looking at what I had specifically imagined: the board break occurring between the F and E.
So what do you think about my success? It was wonderful to use the exercise to break through my hidden unlabelled FEARs. Especially since I could see that my fears sometimes look like apathy or non-interest.
I also, again had a quick and intense example of using SPEED Manifesting(TM) to create fast. And it still humbles me when it happens like this.
I am blessed that you share in my fun, my trials and my successes too. Thank you for being here now, with me.
What if? What if? What if?
Disconnecting from our old dreams of the past and creating new dreams can be sad and exhilarating.
Our grief to accept that we are now on a different path, and our ‘old’ dreams, unaccomplished are not on the same page anymore. Let go of the old, forget about the “What If”s and start to consider what you would truly like in 10 years from now.
Not next week, next year or in 2 years, but in 10 years.
It’s time for you to step back, look at life as it is, and prepare a new slate. That Pivot Point allows for new futures. Maybe some of what you want is still the same, but be BRAVE. Hold your courage (you have lots!).
“What kind of SPEED Manifesting is that??”
The trick to manifesting fast, is letting go of When, once you know what you want. Sometimes the Menu changes though. Then ponder a new dream.
I know that’s what I am doing. And it makes sense, based on the ME that I am now.
It’s time for new, now.
Abundant blessings of newly-hatched dreams for you,
It took a while to settle things in my family, and I have to tell you it didn’t look anything like SPEED Manifesting™ for a while. I thought I knew what I wanted, but I had to allow Free Will into the intimate relationships in my life.
And then, I had to really choose the flavour of my life – my Whole Life – today, tomorrow and every day forward. I had to explore what that meant, and let go of beliefs, roles, obligations, self-judgement and limits. I had to Allow that Flavour to become the sight and sound of my life…forever.
That Flavour is the Feeling that we can use with Imagination. It has to be acceptible to us, no matter what. We have to choose our Flavour right down to our bones.
That is true Alignment to NOW.
You’ll know it when you get there.
I am thankful for these teachings and lessons, and again The Method of SPEED Manifesting™ has taken me where I choose to be: my flavour is Peace. And I am already there.
Abundant blessings to you.
It’s one thing to know what you want. It’s another to stop there because of your “but…” conversation. You may not even realise that’s what’s delaying your manifestation. I just recently answered a comment on the 7 Days Video course and here is my response to someone waiting for over a year while visualising his dream lifestyle and clearly knowing what he wants:
Hi Andrew, thanks for the background details, they help me in understanding your question fully. YES! Let go now. To your mind it may feel like giving up or moving on, but you are 100% right that the Universe is being ‘interrupted’ from moving things toward you as you continually keep visualising. It’s a fine line though: It’s a combination of visualising WITH the emotion of what it feels like to live in that life, everyday. I think maybe you haven’t yet fully aligned inside to allowing yourself to receive it. That’s not a critism, though. It takes a couple of quick conversations or ‘communes within’ to ask yourself some questions about what it would feel like to live on a beautiful beach every day of your life and be happy there. “Am I willing to have that life every day?” “What is the flavour (feeling) of my life in that dream?” THEN notice what negatives are still floating around about the possibilities of YOU being in that life. Sometimes we don’t realise that we aren’t ready to receive because there are other relationships, family obligations or opinions, perceived complications still lingering within our ideal life image. Be brave enough to look at what you’ve made it mean to live that life.
I am telling you this because recently when I asked for Ease & Grace, Peace & Prosperity – two things came up – fear of boredom, and needing to work diligently to deserve it before it comes. So I tried on boredom, and saw – for the first time – this constant, nagging restlessness within me. Since restlessness doesn’t equal peace, and fear of boredom kept me from what I wanted, I CHOSE. I chose powerfully, emotionally, and dropped the old chains that had been driving my personality. Then it allowed me to ALIGN within to what I truly wanted: Ease & Grace, Peace & Prosperity. Harmony. I could FEEL the difference as a YES inside.
Then each night I wrote 3 things to appreciate 1.Past 2.Present 3.Future. My Future thanks was in the past tense, and I repeated the same one each night: “Thank you for my ease and grace, peace and prosperity, health and vitality, fun and laughter. It took about 2-3 weeks, during which time my life fell apart, in order to fall together into exactly that.
Hope that helps you allow your wildest dreams into your daily life.
Remember to go beyond imagining with emotion and look at the “but…” voice that may be waiting for encouragement to let go.
Abundant blessings of riches to you, Lori
It’s tough out there right now for many people. If you are feeling overwhelmed, confused, exhausted mentally or even withdrawn, you are not alone. That doesn’t always make it any better, but just know that I feel for you. I know you are doing your best…but do you know that?
It’s time to step back, and give yourself a rest, a recharge, and lots of self-acceptance. Once you can do that, it’s time to give yourself self-acknowledgement and encouragement. You ARE doing your best, so tell yourself that. Have a great conversation with yourself.
Think about past journeys or projects you have completed. Remember how they had stages where you were strong and resilient when you started, then you got low at some point, and had to recharge? What do you do to recharge? Laugh, move, rest or play, however that nourishes you now.
Keep showing up. It’s not finished yet, even though it may be looking like the end of so many things you once gained comfort in, you are still here, so there is more to expand into.
The Game of Life is changing on this planet. Can you feel it too? You agreed to come here and live through these incredible tumultuous times of 2012 and beyond. Take the longer time-space perspective. Step back and look at the possibilities opening up for ALL of us. There are so many unknowns, and that can be as exhilarating as it is terrifying. Hang in there. You are doing your best. Allow the circumstances to “play out” without resistance. Watch them without reaction. Respond when the choice is presented. Don’t worry about the next 50 steps and how all this is going. Just focus on appreciating the awareness of this special time of huMankind and when you are refreshed with laughter or joy or peace, step back into the stream and keep Doing Your Best.
I know that is always what you are doing. I appreciate you.
p.s. I just did a radio show on this topic if you’d like to explore it further:
Pollution is everywhere! Especially floating energetically through the air and inside your brain. When you think that nasty thought and it surprises you – like “who is inside my head?” don’t assume it originated from you or your memory circuits. Surprisingly you can tell the difference straight away with this command: “Return these thoughts to sender with love.” And if they are not originated by you, they will dissapate. Try it! I learned this command from a simple broadcast of Rikka Zimmerman and was astonished and relieved to know I wasn’t as bad-minded as my thoughts suggested. She actually suggests this question: “Who does this thought belong to?”
It was pollution! Energy pollution (hopefully they won’t find a way to tax that and call it some nonsensical green spin jargon). Oops… maybe that cynical thought isn’t mine [pause...'RTS with love']. Hmmm, the power is gone…
Alright, so anyway, keep rinsing your thoughts, each day, as needed. Maybe your mental sink will be full of dirty dishes to work on, or maybe, like me you will find that they eventually are less frequent and easier to deal with from the new perspective of ownership of movement and sending them through, rather than parking and growing them. Ahhh. Feels better already. And less stinky in there too.
Manifesting money fast is the number one request I get. If you’ve read my book you’ll notice the balance in my manifesting process. Yes, manifesting money is part of the process, but if you have to ask, then maybe it’s a different question that you are asking, so I will answer both the direct question and then the unasked question.
1. To manifest money fast – Imagine it with emotion. Picture your wallet full of $20 or $50 notes and FEEL happy and content, or at least relieved. If you need it badly, then imagine it and celebrate that moment of receiving. Be thankful for it in advance. Do this any time you have an immediate need for small amounts of cashflow fast.
2. To manifest money fast any time on a regular basis, the real question behind the question is usually not the money. It is the freedom that you want, isn’t it? It is really financial freedom; manifesting money in order to be free to have fun, explore the planet and holiday, give gifts and of course to be free from fear of debt and obligation. So imagine the lifestyle; imagine doing the thing that you want the money for; imagine paying your bills happily, no matter what your current circumstances.
Remember that money is a tool to create. It is like the pipes in your house. Set it up to receive, but unhook from banging on the pipes. When you go about your day, you don’t think about the pipes as you shower, wash the dishes or quench your thirst. Appreciate the source of the supply, not the plumbing!
So, to get past a temporary manifesting crisis, use your imagination to call it forward and watch for it. Appreciate it in small amounts as it shows up. Eventually to be a master manifester, make it about the outcome, not the way to get there.
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Do you remember the story about the container full of rubber duckies that fell off a ship in the 90′s and were used for decades by scientists to learn about ocean currents? I had a quick conversation about it with my husband a few months ago. He hadn’t heard about it and was interested.
If you want to read about it here is a good article:
So, what happens when you get excited, animated and enthusiastic? You bring on more!
Rubber Duckies started showing up unexpectedly.
-I was kayaking in our small lake and noticed that our neighbour keeps a rubber ducky by the swimming pool. It may be his pet’s toy, but I had never seen it before. That made me laugh and pay attention.
- movies suddenly had rubber duckies in the background! A Dophin’s Tale even had the dolphin playing with a rubber ring made of a rubber ducky!
-facebook friends posted photos of rubber duckies.
-my subconscious was attuned to them in shops, magazines, on posters, in ads – they were suddenly everywhere, like they somehow had never been there before.
It all became a delightful conversation with a Universe that has a sense of humour. Out of the blue the image of a rubber ducky would cheer me up and inspire me, because it felt like Life was trying to get my attention to make me laugh at my own seriousness.
So rubber duckies have replaced butterflies at the moment.
Lovely to hear from you.
Your question about grief is valid. Out of the 12 things that stop us from manifesting fast, I did not include this one in my book. Maybe it was an oversight because I was not dealing with it while I was in my self made hole.
So, let me answer your question from the fullness of my experience and perspective both before and after that time, when I applied the concepts of Speed Manifesting to move myself quickly. I still use my own method when things slip. That is the reason I wanted to document a process; so I could repeat a fast turnaround whenever I might need it, and so could others.
Grief is different from self imposed limits of thinking. It is an important emotion, because we are reaching for the connection to another, and noticing when it’s not physically there. No new memories to be created, regrets about the incomplete lists, the things not said, the un-asked push into another Season of life.
I understand. Your comment about having to go through the grief process is useful, because it shows you are willing to weather the time of separation and completion until you are ready to allow it to be transformed into more.
“The lotus may grieve for it’s expired petals of beauty, but that doesn’t infect its ability to create more beauty.”
Sometimes we feel bad – releasing the bad feelings without resistance is useful to shortening the bad feelings. Doing it appropriately helps those around us to also be strong and vulnerable at the same time.
Remember though – sometimes we feel really, really good in the midst of bad circumstances or feelings. Allow both to be ok. Bad is not good, and good is not bad. Accept both. Heal the sadness, anger, frustration by feeling and sending the ‘energy’ on it’s way AS IT Comes up. You will shorten the grieving process, but the timing is individual.
Validate your feelings, whatever they are.
Having said that, I have found these practices helpful for getting through it:
- Ask questions that turn in the direction of healing and completion.
(not ‘Why?’ or ‘Why me?’ but instead ‘What is the wholeness in this?’ ‘What’s my learning in this?’
My answers were helpful especially “at least I had the experience of loving that person.” (pet, anything)
- My logic/philosophy said things like “enjoy what you have now, because change is certain.” “The present is to be appreciated, because all things pass.”
I remember once on a freezing cold rainy day in 1998 in Christchurch New Zealand I was leaving my office after finding out about the accidental small-plane crash death of a co-worker and several others into cold ocean waters. Usually I would step out into that bitter rain complaining about my physical discomfort. That day, however as I felt the biting, cold, stinging rain on my face I suddenly thought “but at least I can still feel it! At least I am still here to feel another day on this beautiful, magnificent planet. He is not…I am alive!” And in that moment I got present to the feeling of appreciation for aliveness. I still grieved. The next time I travelled to the area I went to the lighthouse nearest the site, and released 7 roses into the stormy cold waters of Bluff, NZ. I cried; I felt; I released. And then I came back and began feeling good when I could.
Blessings to you,
If u prefer to stay away from hospital stories then it’s time to move along to your next blog reading. I am typing 1 handed because my left hand is bandaged. I spent 6 hours in the emergency ward yesterday and that world is not a familiar one, thank goodness.
i was cutting fresh olive leaves for making a cup of tea and i cut the tip of my finger – off. i wont get into more details except to say that after 4 hours at home lying down meditating doing ho’oponopo, 6 hours at the hospital ending with 5 stiches and a tetanus shot, i had time to think and thank.
I told my beautiful body again and again that i was sorry, because just before that i had been thinking about the whole medical industry and how angry I was that it extends peoples’ lives while it extracts their money. My anger was deep and I now see that I CANNOT do that anymore. I manifest quickly, and my subconcious perfectly followed my ‘orders’ (my attention+emotion). You can see it working that way, cant you? What a lesson. I love and respect my beautiful intelligent body and i am deepy sorry for what i put it through.
My life no longer has a place for angry thoughts. I am turning a new interest on controlling and releasing my thoughts, every moment of awareness, and getting in tune with appreciating my body even more.
I will also be moving more into audio work, since that perfectly fits my healing time over the next few weeks and beyond. I have been wanting to expand into more audio anyway, and I even already started a new radio show again this month on Contact Talk Radio. So catch me there and I look forward to what this lesson has opened up going forward.
New show details:
p.s. of course i have all good things to say about the staff and care i received. Lesson learned, indeed!
For the first time ever, in the last 2 weeks I have been brutally ‘flamed’ on youtube and on my main website www.speedmanifesting.com/ebook.htm. The reason I give that Edress is that was my home landing page for anyone searching on google. What experience does that give others when they start on that page? It seems that people miss all the free stuff I provide first when I send them there. I have been continually told I give too much away, and should charge more. Hah! So where is the difference in the value judgements?
The youtuber was vicious (that is a valid comment). The website responder was more gentle. When I contacted each of them to understand more, the youtuber came back with an apology and said he had a brain tumor and doesn’t remember calling me a bitch, saying that I charge over $400 (not true) nor saying that the ‘abundant blessings’ were for me, not anyone else.
The gentle responder got through to me in a different way. She said she was very sad to find that I was just another author charging $97 for the same materials. When I wrote to her she explained that she has invested many thousands of dollars in various self-help materials and still finds herself no better off. Here is her exact comment:
“I’m very sad to see this is yet another website to generate money for the author. And at $97 to boot. sad very sad.
For years I have sought info that would better my life and I have spent $1000 plus on products and I just wont do it any more ….yours just like all the rest, promise great results all saying the exact thing but in a little different way etc etc
I have a whole room filled with such books and promises. It makes me sad that it is yet another money making program. I’m sad, not even frustrated or angry just feel a profound saddness that you are yet another person trying to make money off of others desire for self help. I think I will just stick with the bible. Have a nice day!”
When I wrote back, the first thing I did was recommend the book that turned my life around in one hour. It was heavily referencing bible scripture, while explaining about Universal Laws (The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity by Catherine Ponder). She replied graciously and now wants to buy my book on Amazon for $20. She is going over to my youtube 7 Days video course to check it out. I remember what it was like to be in serious lack in all areas of my life for years.
I am proud of my pricing, and yet I realised that I made a mistake when I put the deepest learning tool upfront on my website. I have since changed it back to my basic homepage, with a quick email sign up for all 7 Steps on Video for free. Seriously, I hold nothing back in these videos. It’s all there on youtube at the moment.
Just because you might have tried similar teachings, it is your teacher that you must find. I can stand firmly against any critism and say that I pay it forward, and I also allow others to give to me when they are ready to go deeper and master manifesting. This is Step 7 of SPEED Manifesting(TM). You can get started and turn the direction of your life with some simple concepts that I explain in a way you have never heard before. And by bridging that gap from your mind back to your spirit, using simplicity, examples and metaphors, the SPEED Manifesting method(TM) is a powerful way of applying what you already know to a modern life. I challenge you to try it fully and see how it changes your perspective.
And those abundant blessings are for you.
I appreciate you.
Lori<3 <3 <3
Getting what we want in life seems to be a secret desire of 45 million people a month. Google confirms this on the popular searches and I can totally understand that people want to know how to get what they desire. Even though we try to appear selfless, our true desire is self-serving. It is only in a world of misdirected teachings that we think this is bad.
If you even try to give others what they want, it is only your perception and interpretation of what they want. Pleasing others and trying to understand them by thinking of them before you, will only cause more misunderstandings and at the end your cup is empty.
So go for it! Go after what you want in life. Spend your entire life dedicated to getting what you want. Just notice that when others around you are doing the same thing, and they are clear on that, you will come to an interface in the relationship of either matching or mismatching. Know why this occurs. Look at your values and make sure that your desires are from your values, not your addictions, ego and fears. Then stay true to your values, and understand other people have different values. Say goodbye if the mismatch is too great, or surrender to your own values of harmony and community, for as long as it serves you.
When my relationships are challenged by this dilemma, I always have a choice. I can either bully and manipulate others with an attitude of “my way or the highway” or I can go to one of my other values to find cooperation and compromise to get what I want in some way. There is a cause and effect to every action.
I may not have gotten the exact holiday location I wanted, but the result is my family is happier when I had to stretch further than just getting what I wanted, and expand to include the needs of these other VIPs in my life. It doesn’t mean that I sacrificed my wants and needs; I just explored them with a wider, more inclusive viewpoint after input from others. Then I included the needs of others and re-prioritized some other important personal values of family harmony, respect and contribution.
Never sacrifice your desires to others when they are based on your personal values and choose another personal value that serves you and everyone else when it is time. You’ll know the difference as you explore more about what it means to be a human being today.
When I was 12 years old my family moved four hours’ drive East, from Detroit to Toronto, Canada. So much in my world changed and something strange had happened; I crossed an invisible line called an international border and I felt like I was on another planet. The fear, hopelessness and distrust of the 1970’s in Detroit opened up to the optimism of immigrants in a fast growing and accepting environment with the warm attitudes and friendliness of Canadians. I was only a short drive away, but the place was clean, strangers said hello to you, and that was suddenly safe and acceptable.
Eventually I learned about the Universal Laws and how life really works – and it occurred to me that the way people think comes from what they believe, but beliefs still had nothing to do with the real Laws of Life, which do not change with circumstances or attitudes.
Beliefs create all the limitations in your life.
Once you have a set idea about something, possibilities for new options are restricted or cut off. Conscious awareness of your beliefs can allow you to sift through them and open up to new frontiers in life.
Where do we form beliefs? The source comes from three influences or degrees:
1st Degree: Experience.
We make conclusions about life from repeated painful or fulfilling experiences; right or wrong, we begin to see life through a filter of these decisions and they gain power and momentum. “I always…” “I never…” become truth, for us.
2nd Degree: Experience of others.
Our parents, teachers, friends and mentors influence us by their harsh or gentle guidance, by witnessing their repetitive behaviours and mistakes and by their stories. We hear their rules about how they think life works and we shorten our learning curve to save time and pain. But their experiences are sometimes not up to date with our world nor in sync with our values. Yet their words are often recorded in our thoughts and replay on auto pilot without us recognizing the source or checking the relevance.
3rd Degree: Dogma.
Teachings, sayings and perspectives from another time long ago can be irrelevant. Religious indoctrination, some ancient teachings handed down, old clichés, sayings that are repeated but not understood and even some laws of the land do not apply to our urgent need to do things differently, right now.
The opposite of belief is possibility.
What is possible when you consider new ideas and new beliefs? It’s time to learn a healthy disrespect for beliefs, so you can choose which are useful, and expand or release any outdated. Knowing the difference can help you to clear out the old and learn that life is a creative process and old limits do not work well for you in a world as fast moving as ours. Challenge your beliefs, and then find the ones that you want to be true, because your beliefs become your life.
Affirmations Are Self-directed Positive Statements
“Affirmations” are usually focused on what you don’t have, or how you are not yet behaving. With that insight, can you understand why affirmations are an uphill battle for many people who are disciplined enough to repeat them daily?
The trick to being free with affirmations and having them work for you, not confirm against you, is your perspective. Before you set an affirmation, think about what you want, and consider if you think it’s possible for you to actually receive it someday. If that’s a big yes, then go ahead and get excited about the day you experience the satisfaction of achieving whatever you are affirming.
However, if your reaction to an affirmation sounds like “that’s a lie” then you have your answer about why the affirmation is slowing you down, not speeding up your manifesting. You are not being reasonable with your mind power – your subconscious – and so it throws it out as irrelevant. Go through an exercise to see whether you can make it reasonable.
First, check if you really want it; sometimes we think we want something, but it is to please other people. Sometimes it was someone else’s dream and we thought that would make us happy. If you know you truly want it then use it in a way that allows you to have it or become it gradually. So instead of saying “I am a millionaire” you can say “I am beginning to live a millionaire lifestyle” or “I am a millionaire in thoughts and words.” Or if being a millionaire really shows up as too much of a stretch for your mind right now, try “I am manifesting more and more money into my life every day.”
This viewpoint changes your energy of intention and you begin to get excited about the outcome, not the process. You can then get busy in life and let the affirmation simmer and percolate through your sending and receiving faculties, ready and open to grab new opportunities and inspirations.
Once you begin to see changes in your circumstances in wonderful new directions, take that as a green light to ramp up your affirmations to a new level. Now you are working with a “Yes” and affirmations can free you to do what they were intended, which is to say “Yes” to a clear and focused desire leading you to your dreams…not focused on what you don’t have or how you are not yet behaving.
This way your subconscious is getting reasonable orders in the direction aligned with your dreams, step by step. Can you now accept it affirmatively? See, that is the basis of the word affirmation – affirmative.
“This should be easy!” we say. “Why is this not working for me?” Change comes through three stages of transformation, and it’s useful to understand how change works and why we resist change so that you can swing with the pendulum of change until your transformation is complete. The first stage is becoming aware of a behaviour and its costs. The second stage is, with this awareness, making a new choice in any moment. The third stage is to follow through with that choice until it becomes a habit.
Do you find it hard to change yourself and your habits? There is a reason for that. We are designed to be open, curious and in awe of the world. We are conditioned, however, to become repeatable, consistent workers. Our schooling was designed in the previous Age, the Industrial Revolution. It was a time of high demand for mass manufacturing. Workers were needed who could be consistent and repeat tasks during gruelling 14 hour days. Skills as factory workers allow masses to enter a new era of working away from sustenance family farms, providing more for families. It wasn’t a perfect human rights world; far from it. But our world as we know it was built upon those foundations.
We live in a time of immense change. The emerging world is the Age of the Mind. We are now exploring what it means to be a human being and we have begun this Age through technology. We want to explore new frontiers everywhere. Our human social lag is catching up. We are ready to let go of repeating history. We are ready to accept that there’s more to life than our five senses. We are open to expanding our thinking and creating from our minds out of new possibilities, as we choose them; not just geniuses or inventors, but all of us.
So, we start on a bold new path, and things in our life begin to change; new options begin to show and we get excited. Then… the dreaded block or barriers come up. We procrastinate. We self-sabotage. We receive ridicule, discouragement and downright condemnation about our new efforts. We fall back. We make mistakes. We do the same old, same old, and we even give up the possibilities of a new life, because the effort is just too much.
If you truly wish to live in awareness and enter new frontiers of living, know that the pendulum of change swings back and forth. Learn that these three stages are normal. Although you may not have been conditioned for this Age, it will become easier over time, with your choices coming from the moment of NOW, again and again, until you and your life become a reflection of your new choices. Then the pendulum slows, settles and finally stops and you have that ease and flow again, at a new level of experience. Stay the course. It is the way back to living fully.
from wikiHow – The How to Manual That You Can Edit
Manifesting is simple, because it is the natural creative process playing itself out from our thoughts and beliefs. Here are the steps to get you started manifesting straight away.
- Figure out exactly what you want and write it down. You can write down a list of things as if you are living that moment right now. Explain how you feel as you experience having or doing these things. Are you on a holiday in Cairo, seeing the ancient pyramids? Are you on a hot air balloon ride? Who are you with? What do you see? Put it in the present tense. Make it a few moments in time that you can describe from a perspective of the one receiving the manifestation. Are you amazed, in awe or content? Are you totally blissed out or exhilarated? Write it out with the details that are loose enough to have some new, unexpected possibilities come into your life, and detailed enough that you are clear on what you want.
- Spend time each day imagining with emotion. Daydreaming is the new intelligence! Check out of physical reality and into your inner reality several times each day. Acknowledge ‘yes’ to your daydreams coming to you. Figure out if you are more receptive to visual daydreams, sound daydreams or physical touch daydreams, and use the one most active to your brain to make the inner reality connect to your outer reality. This one distinction on using your imagination can turn all your other confusing efforts into flowing results.
- Look for ways to feel gratitude. The difference here is the feeling of gentle appreciation for everything that you get. Think of each thing you experience and have now as a gift from all that have come before you. Think of all the surprises and coincidences that begin to appear in your life as a gift from above. That is closer to the Truth of all life than you may realize. When you complain or reject what comes to you, you depreciate the life flow; you shut it down, cut it off and stop your desires in general. Life begins to appear gray and lifeless, because you have depreciated it through negative feelings. Simply look for one thing to appreciate, and it begins to open your flow. Then look for another thing to appreciate, and more and more. Once you are appreciating more than you are depreciating, your flow of good things is fast and furious. Simple.
- Learn how your thinking mind works. Two parts thinking, one part autopilot; that’s the blueprint for human beings. Conscious thinking is what you do when you are learning and experiencing something new. Once it is learned it gets filed away and delegated to your subconscious thinking (your autopilot). Here’s the kicker though; your body is run by your subconscious. So if you want to get rid of procrastination, bad habits and resistance, you better learn how to communicate directly with your subconscious. It likes orders, so give it new orders. Learn what old, mistaken orders it has been operating with and command your subconscious. Finally, learn about that third thinking mind; the intelligence energy that is the One Mind. Learn to connect and surrender to the quiet voice sometimes through daily meditation (no thinking) so you can use all your wonderful mental faculties.
- Learn to listen to your words. Wow! What a concept, that we may create our life from our words. Why is that scary? Because when you begin to listen to yourself speak, you hear that someone else is driving the lawnmower, and you finally figure out why your garden is a mess. It takes awareness, practise and discipline to guard your mouth and replace the complaints, words of lack or self-criticism with words of intention and self-love. Do the same with others as you do with yourself. Tell yourself when you have done well! Encourage your self when it gets tough. Say “well done, you handled that well.” Say “I know you can do it. You’ll figure it out. Just take a rest and try again.” Say “I believe in you!” What a radical idea!
- Take 3 different types of actions, but do something now! Spiritual principles require actions in the physical world to receive. As a matter of fact, actions are about either asking or receiving, and asking is not complete without allowing receiving by actions. Use 3 types of actions to honour your part in the fullness of manifesting: Orderly Actions, Assumptive Actions and Intuitive Actions. Orderly actions are logical. You write something in your diary or on a list to do and you carry them out. It makes sense to do this to get what you want. Want more clients – call 10 people and ask them if you can help them with your services. Assumptive Actions get you in a state of mind that you are busy preparing for getting what you want. Want a new car – do you have a parking space for it or do you need to get busy clearing out the garage of clutter. By the way, creating a vacuum is a powerful way of activating flow – more on that in the next step. Intuitive Actions come from that inner voice. Sometimes you are in the shower and you have a compelling idea. Listen to it and get busy with it. It may not be the exact idea that creates for you, but it will surely lead you to something that is part of the receiving puzzle.
- Learn about the Flow of Life and the Circulation principle. Old “Success” principles taught us about taking actions and getting what we want. But Life exists in flow. Flow is an energy behind your asking and then receiving. It is a polarity that you set into motion through all these steps. You must start circulation by creating space where there was none before. In a practical sense, just getting rid of clutter can begin the circulation. So can letting go of inside blocks and resentment, old emotional attachments, hurts and regrets. Let go and make room for the new, both inside and out. Then position yourself in the world so you are standing in the real flow of receiving, not paddling upstream collecting stuff, trying to get your share. You are here to give…and to allow others to give to you, both or nothing. It works together if you want to live in the flow. Break from the old ‘how do I get’ philosophy and you will open up the channel of flow from so many people wishing to give their talents and gifts in the world. The currency of flow looks like money in our commercial world. That is the facade. The real ‘currency’ is people and the movement of possibilities and intentions, all connecting with each other and fed with the source energy of all Life – expansion.
- Remember that manifestation includes actions but this will get you started if you can do these steps first. The actions of writing down your desires, imagining them daily and feeling grateful will get things moving for you. When you are ready to master fast manifesting and find you get stopped by your beliefs, that’s the time to move into learning SPEED Manifesting™ with Lori.
- Your BELIEFS will slow you down or stop you from receiving unless you continually clean them out and keep new possibilities available. Stay open but use your reason. Give your old self new orders, and new thoughts will produce new results.
Sources and Citations
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This year has been a long year for me, and now that we are at the end I can say that my results are so personally satisfying that I find myself in a wonderful state of contentment. I understand that ever more is unfolding so that I can continue to reach, stretch and expand. But as I look back at the year I can see 4 Key Beliefs that I honestly faced and finally released, producing very fast manifestations beyond anything before.
Old Belief #1: My new 4 bedroom luxury home is not here yet! It should be here already.
I had spent the last two years visualizing the perfect home and writing it down. I had photos of my ‘dream home’ on a daily manifesting movie. I had been looking at the outcome as that particular house with detailed features. In November it came to such urgency that I had to dig deeper. By then we had outgrown our 3 bedroom standalone townhouse; my oldest son was finishing high school and my youngest was starting a new school in January. I had worked energetically on releasing many, many (many) issues brought up by my strong desire to move including my feelings of frustration, residual fears from childhood around loss of home, grief and risk. In addition I had created huge emotional challenges at our home Resort with disagreements and security issues. But I continually worked on my emotions as they came up. I saw them as the gateway blocking me from what I truly wanted. When I finally stopped trying to work on doing it my way (figuring out how to sell our home first) I got down to what I really wanted NOW, and that was simply to MOVE! I then walked around saying “we are moving, we are moving, we are moving”. I put pictures of people moving boxes on our fridge and imagined being happy with moving. Within 2 weeks I found myself amongst boxes packing up a friend’s kitchen. I realized the connection and laughed. At first I was going to say “no, it’s supposed to be me!” but then I accepted that this was a wonderful movement toward exactly what I wanted. I trimmed the strangers’ faces out of the photos and affirmed ‘yes’ to this movement. Not more than 2 weeks later my husband was talking to a friend who wanted to lease out his luxury house and it all fell together incredibly quickly after that. We effortlessly moved the week before Christmas, even getting tenants into our townhouse very quickly. We did not have to wait for the market to change or a singular perfect buyer. We now have our own pool, our own beach, a gorgeous outdoor Bali hut, 4 large bedrooms plus a study for my office. We live on “The Island” and I am feeling so grateful to the Universe for hearing all the details of my desires and answering them in so many ways. My boys are so happy here. My husband and I wake up looking at the dawn sky over the pool and lake. My old belief was transformed into “Oh, yes, of course it’s coming NOW” before it happened.
Old Belief #2: I am afraid I might become arrogant about being rich beyond my wildest dreams.
I didn’t even know I had this belief hanging around until I had a workshop participant bring it up as her fear of getting rich. Since the people around me reflect my thoughts, I did some energy work in this area and was surprised that I was afraid of my own power. Now that I have received a huge part of my luxury dream, I can say that I feel more humbled than anything. I am so content as I watch my family together exploring this new way of living. I am inviting my friends to come and play and it feels like an extension of my life; like a new exciting chapter.
Old Belief #3: It’s ok to be in debt. Lots of people use debt to get ahead.
Over this last year, this has been a significant part of my journey, because two years before, in 2008 I had challenged an old belief that “debt is bad”. I chose to get back into personal debt, even after we had become mortgage free. We bought a beautiful Toyota Prius Hybrid and it felt great. We still love this car and the freedom it gives in contributing to a new breed of auto technology. I also invested in my business and took some wonderful personal development courses, plus became a certified Success Coach by flying over to the States and being trained by a highly regarded Master Coach who was Tony Robbins’ producer for eight years. She also developed coaching programs for John Gray, Stephen Covey and Bob Proctor among others. It was well worth it to gain so much from her expertise on not only coaching, but how to market high level leadership coaching powerfully. Then, two years down the track, the interest rates in Australia began to climb. There were six (6!) consecutive interest rate hikes over 8 months, and suddenly the amount I paid for my debt became significantly more. It really caught me off guard, because it suddenly felt like a real lack of freedom. Even though the debt and interest amounts were insignificant compared to others with large mortgage debts, I had to face my feelings about debt. I then released so much energy around being in debt and being out of control of finances. It was all old stuff and I was so ready to release it. I did my worldly research on the credit system of the world as the stock market crash played out. I got the information I needed to make much more powerful decisions in my life, and finally, I made a commitment to switch to cash. What a learning, both within and without! The home had to manifest without a mortgage or any debt, and it did exactly that, perfectly!
Old Belief #4: Abundance looks like spending without thinking about it.
I was not switching to debit cards and cash because I could not get credit. Instead, I learned especially that the wealthiest people on this planet are good stewards of wealth and to them, abundance is not just throwing money around or spending without thinking; quite the opposite (thanks to Eben Pagan among others for this wonderful lesson on how to FLOW my wealth as it comes in and goes out). My Step 7 speaks of Circulation and how it works. I have always had a healthy respect for getting value for my money. Now I spend, save or share with freedom, because I am clear on my needs being met by the FLOW of cash. I do not spend until the money is manifested there. This is so important because in hindsight the Circulation principle only works powerfully when money moves in the NOW. When we spend from the Future energy we are going against Universal principles of Flow and there is ALWAYS, ALWAYS (ALWAYS) a reckoning day. I must manifest in the NOW when I have a desire. Now that I have aligned myself with this wonderful way the Universe works, I have clarity about when the time is NOW to spend, and when I need to do my internal work to increase the inflow and manifest powerfully. This way I have been graced to experience what a great co-creator I am when I am aligned. It is awesome and I invite you to consider some of these learnings.
During 2010 with each old belief that I truthfully explored, many challenging circumstances and feelings came up. What I did to release those feelings was to allow them to be there, and then used energy releasing techniques to experience them and let them go.
There are three parts to creating the life of your dreams:
1. Know the steps to Creating (SPEED Manifesting™ inclusively covers all seven steps).
2. Know what slows you.
3. Know what to do when you are slowed.
I know how to create. I have that process down pat, and SPEED Manifesting™ was developed from my success at repetitively getting consistent results. However when we have beliefs in the way, we need to go within and deal with those so that the natural Creative Process can work its magic. It really is simple and you can move step by step toward even your biggest dreams.
If anyone tries to complicate it, then they have not yet come to the Truth of How Life Works and How Human Beings are Designed. Once you learn and practice the 7 Steps of SPEED Manifesting™, work on your internal energy-thinking-feelings. This is the necessary “work”. Everything else then flows and unfolds without effort, very quickly.
2011 is already looking great!
The Master was walking through the fields one day when a young man, a troubled look upon his face, approached him.
“On such a beautiful day, it must be difficult to stay so serious,” the Master said.
“Is it? I hadn’t noticed,” the young man said, turning to look around and notice his surroundings. His eyes scanned the landscape, but nothing seemed to register; his mind elsewhere. Watching intently, the Master continued to walk.
“Join me if you like.”
The Master walked to the edge of a still pond, framed by sycamore trees, their leaves golden orange and about to fall.
“Please sit down,” the Master invited, patting the ground next to him. Looking carefully before sitting, the young man brushed the ground to clear a space for himself.
“Now, find a small stone, please,” the Master instructed.
” A stone. Please find a small stone and throw it in the pond.” Searching around him, the young man grabbed a pebble and threw it as far as he could.
“Tell me what you see,” the Master instructed.
Straining his eyes to not miss a single detail, the man looked at the water’s surface.
“I see ripples.”
“Where did the ripples come from?”
“From the pebble I threw in the pond, Master.”
“Please reach your hand into the water and stop the ripples,” the Master asked. Not understanding, the young man stuck his hand in the water as a ripple neared, only to cause more ripples. The young man was now completely baffled. Where was this going? Had he made a mistake in seeking out the Master? After all he was not a student, perhaps he could not be helped? Puzzled, the young man waited.
“Were you able to stop the ripples with your hands?” the Master asked.
“No, of course not.”
“Could you have stopped the ripples, then?”
“No, Master. I told you I only caused more ripples.”
“What if you had stopped the pebble from entering the water to begin with?” The Master smiled such a beautiful smile; the young man could not be upset.
“Next time you are unhappy with your life, catch the stone before it hits the water. Do not spend time trying to undo what you have done. Rather, change what you are going to do before you do it.” The Master looked kindly upon the young man.
“But Master, how will I know what I am going to do before I do it?”
“Take the responsibility for living your own life. If you’re working with a doctor to treat an illness, then ask the doctor to help you understand what caused the illness. Do not just treat the ripples. Keep asking questions.” The young man stopped, his mind reeling.
“But I came to you to ask you for answers. Are you saying that I know the answers?”
“You may not know the answers right now, but if you ask the right questions, then you shall discover the answers.”
“But what are the right questions, Master?”
“There are no wrong questions, only unasked ones. We must ask, for without asking, we cannot receive answers. But it is your responsibility to ask. No one else can do that for you.”
A time comes in your life when you finally get it…
When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere, the voice Inside your head cries out – ENOUGH!
Enough fighting and crying, or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes, you begin to look at the world through new eyes.
This is your awakening…
You realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world, there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you and in the process, a sense of serenity is born of Acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are … and that’s OK. (They are entitled to their own Views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process, a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it’s not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process, a sense of safety and security is born of Self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process, a sense of peace and Contentment is born of forgiveness.
You realize that much of the way you view yourself and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. You begin to sift through all the junk you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look and how much you should weigh, what you should wear and where you should shop and what you should drive, how and where you should live and what you should do for a living, who you should marry and what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising Children or what you owe your parents. You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with and in the process, you learn to go with your instincts.
You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive and that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop manoeuvring through life merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don’t know everything; it’s not your job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.
You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love; and you learn that you don’t have the right to demand love on your terms, just to make you happy.
You learn that alone does not mean lonely. You look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 8 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over how you “stack up.”
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is your right, to want things and to ask for the things that you want and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.
You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won’t settle for less. You allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his touch and in the process, you internalize the meaning of self-respect.
And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear. So you take more time to rest. Just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul; so you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that for the most part in life, you get what you believe you deserve and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen, is different from working toward making it happen.
More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.
You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time; FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear, is to give away the right to live life on your terms.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions, you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn’t punishing you or failing to answer your prayers; it’s just life happening.
You learn to deal with evil in its most primal state; the ego. You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted; things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about; a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart’s desire. You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind, and you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.
Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.
Introduction to The Awakening by Sonny Carroll
I actually began writing this piece in 1996 shortly after coming out of a long drawn out and painful break-up. I was a total mess. My life was in shambles and as I tried to make some sense of what had happened, and why, I began to write The Awakening. This piece is a compilation of all the lessons I learned and the observations I made about myself, about other people and their relationships, and of the wisdom that my most dear friend, Drane Uljaj, has shared with me over countless cups of tea.